It's not always about you...
Something that makes me proud is that I know my truth. Even when it's felt out of reach, I've always found my way back to the core of who I am, especially when it comes to adversity. That, to me, is a sign of emotional maturity. There was a time in my journey when I took everything personally, from people's bad moods to projections that had nothing to do with me. I knew I was growing and healing when I stopped making other people's pain about me.
A mantra I often say to myself in contentious moments that I know are not about me or my actions is this: The healed version of me recognizes and honors the unhealed version of you.
These words keep me rooted in empathy and compassion. It helps me depersonalize and stay grounded in truth.
Not taking things to heart, and making them true in our lives, is a challenging practice. It invites us to look at the people lashing out, for whatever reason, and see their aggression through a lens of compassion, empathy, and softness. Now, I know empathy is not always the first place we tend to go when someone talks to us sideways, is mean, or treats us indifferently. But over the years, after exercising my compassion muscle, it's maybe the second place I go in my head versus the last place, which is progress.
As I continue to grow, I realize that by prioritizing what I know to be true in my life and looking at the micro changes in my healing, I lean deeper into gratitude practice and inner peace. It feels less like a struggle to remember who I am in times of adversity. Something I continue to learn on this path is that everything isn't always about me—even when people treat me poorly.
The reframe I'm grateful for is this: Maybe they're going through something. I know who I am. Their aggression is not about me.
The Lesson: Don't let other people's bad behavior throw you off or take you backward.
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