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I'm choosing myself by walking in my own truth for the very first time in my life. I have lived much of my life "going with the flow" of others ideas, thoughts, wants, and opinions to "keep peace". I had done it for so long I didn't even know how to express my own thoughts, wants, and opinions or I would be apologetic about it. I'm free now for the first time in my life. I'm finally falling in love with me and it's not selfish to do so!

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Celebrating you!

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As I read your words, I feel like I am reading my own journal entry! It’s helpful to not be alone and read that other strong, beautiful woman are also on a journey similar to my own. ❤️

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Thank you and bless you👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾🙌🏾🙋🏾

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Enjoy your new journey 👍🏾👏🏾❤️

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I love that for you!!💕

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I have gone all my life just trying to fit in. As a military child I changed schools and states so much that I never felt connected to anything or anyone. It manifested into alot of self sabotage. There arw moments that I can't even look in the mirror cause I don't know who I am anymore.

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I agree with Rekha. It did feel like my highest self talking to me. This season I am choosing me by saying 'no' more. As a recovering people pleaser I can say I feel a bit of guilt but yet empowered at the same time.

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LOVE, love! Thank you for sharing and reading.

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I’m doing the same! I’ve been a people pleaser my whole life. I’m starting to say “no”more as well!! Sometimes it’s very uncomfortable for me but I know it’s the right thing to do. “It’s not what we need to start doing it’s what we need to stop doing” Thank you @Alex Elle for all your wise words, they are helping me heal one day at a time!! ❤️

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Love this! I am choosing myself by saying no to things I don’t want to do or don’t have the capacity to do at the moment. I am recognizing that no is a complete sentence and it doesn’t have to offend anyone. It is now something I now say that is powerful and shows that I am choosing myself.

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Right there with you, Lindsey! Thank you for sharing.

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I am choosing myself by being my own first line of approval, asking myself what I think, what I want, and how I feel, first; by doing what my mind wants to tell me is “selfish” but what my heart feels is right or aligned; and by accepting that sometimes I will not have an audience, I will not have cheerleaders, as Alex says, I will have to be my only option.

It feels tentative, and dangerous, and hard! It scares the shit out of me about six times a day. But I choose not to be deterred by fear. I choose to keep leaning into what I know I must do, flexing that muscle so one day choosing myself will feel more like a reflex.

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YES!!!

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Alex, I loved the thought of choosing yourself as a sacred act. Only by honoring yourself can you truly choose others. Thank you for the reminder. D

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Thank you, Dave! x

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I choose myself by realizing that everyone in my path can not go with me....and that's fine.

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This! Thank you for sharing.

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Wonderful. This so resonated for me. Thank you. This is and was so my pattern!

I have been working to deeply chose myself for a few years now. To risk disappointing others to show up for my self is still excruciatingly difficult. But I am doing all I can to work with it consciously. I really appreciate you making this struggle back to self here. And how important it is to pace and be kind to ourselves as this journey unfolds. And also the deep power of modeling.

I needed this today. THANK YOU XxxxHazel Osborne / celebrate.life.soul.work

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So glad it resonated! Thank you for sharing.

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I’m choosing myself by leaning into sadness when it appears & walking away from situations that feel like “shoulds”. Choosing myself feels rebellious AND like coming home all bundled into one.

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YES!!!!

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I am choosing myself by changing my perspective on doing things to receive love or praise. I am deserving just as I am an not solely for what I can provide.

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Yes! This is huge. Thank you for sharing.

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I am choosing myself by finding small ways to prioritize my well-being….deep breathing, walks outside, reading for fun, socializing with friends and going to the gym.

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Love this! "Reading for fun!" YESSS.

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I show up for myself when I put my foot down and go back to my own apartment - I am surrounded by clingy, co-dependent, afraid people (whom I love) and it feels like a victory whenever I am able to ask for the space and alone time that I need and actually enforce those boundaries. PS THANK YOU Alex Elle for inspiring me to take baby steps in choosing myself.

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Yes indeed 👏🏾

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So much love! Thank you for sharing and being here.

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Awesome read!!! It resonated well with me. It was like my higher self talking to me. Thank you Alex.

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Thank you! So glad it resonated with you.

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I'm taking a weekly sabbath (as is the rest of the family), where we do no work, just rest and play, both together and alone, and remember how much we're loved without productivity.

Also, sounds strange, but Saturdays are my day to tackle housekeeping tasks and go at it hard. This is self-care because I have three kids under 6 at home, one being a baby, and during the week, I just don't stay on top of the house more than little bits each day. By Saturday, I'm ready to just be forward moving and productive in a different way than the menial (yet important) tasks of mothering during the week.

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I love this! Enjoy that time.

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I am choosing myself by unlearning the habit of people pleasing. It's deceivingly easier to be agreeable and to please people in an effort to avoid conflict. I used to think that people pleasing preserved my energy. News flash, It does not. Instead, I was stuffing in my frustration all while trying to keep a straight face. That actually just further drained my energy. All that to say, I really loved this gentle reminder to choose yourself.

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I’m choosing myself by spending a whole year and probably more off on most of my social media platforms until I feel ready and more equipped to contribute more in the social network world, I’m choosing myself by re-prioritizing my spiritual health and investing in my mental, emotional & physical health! And it feels Liberating.

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Honestly, I was forced to choose myself.... my relationship ended traumatically and I had to “see myself” and when I finally opened my eyes, I was unrecognizable! It has been 27 days and my physical healing has been great, but emotionality it has been a roller coaster. Trying not to be reckless in my actions (esp with unnecessary spending) and thoughts of self have definitely improved. Choosing myself doesn’t come easy, I won’t lie, but I’m conscious and purposeful with it. I have decided it’s not just in what I want to say or do, but also in my thoughts, I also have to lean on me, take my own advice, value myself and my opinions. So thank you for this piece, I’m not there as yet, but I’m definitely on my way, and will continue to do the work! And some day I’ll reread this and relate fully with it all! Ashé

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