The way I’m trying to get out of my car and just had the ugliest cry reading the part about staying and BEING PROUD!
Tomorrow is moving day. I’m closing that (insert an embarrassing amount of years) year long chapter for good. We produced two wonderful humans and for that lll be grateful. Finally choosing me.
The way this all spoke to me, thank you for opening this space in your heart and sharing it with us. So much wisdom just from this post alone, excited to read it. Congratulations, Alex! 🖤
Oh Alex…this is going to free so many people. Thank you for your commitment to self work and encouraging others to do the same. So ready to read, discuss and recommend to my clients.
Can't wait to read this - it speaks to me in so many ways. The part about relationships being seasons - even if those seasons are 20 years, OOF. I found this quote in December that I took with me into 2026: "You can't heal in the same environment you got sick." I can't wait to read more and continue my healing journey.
So much knowledge and wisdom in your message. I am 68. My husband of 45 years just passed in November. You just described my marriage. I should have left 25 years ago but stayed. The last 20 years I was miserable, resentful, bitter and unfulfilled. But, I stayed. I kept my marriage but lost myself. I have been serving others for so long that I now don’t know how to serve myself. I am now trying to find some joy in me. I pushed myself and feelings to the side so much that I don’t know what I feel. Thank you young one. Live your life to the fullest.
"My unspoken expectations. My avoidance of difficult conversations. My tendency to over-give and then quietly be pissed about it. My longing to stay even after I’ve been shown it’s time to wrap it up." I have become resentful & reserved. Self betrayal.
I feel this is going to help so many people. I was talking to a friend this morning about why I feel uneasy with a particular friend. Not that I hate them or anything. I just feel a linger of unease and reading this hours later just feels like fate.
Some of the hardest moments in a former toxic friendship that started in the church were the evasive gaslighting and avoidance of accountability when conflicts arose. It was difficult to be vulnerable and speak truth when it was met with filler Bible verses that perpetuated shame—all while the toxic friend engaged in dishonest reprimand. It's been over eight years since that relationship ended, and my nervous system is still healing. Being honest and vulnerable remains hard because my vulnerability was used against me—to silence what I observed as unfair behavior—while the very people I was vulnerable with refused to take accountability for the issues that prompted my vulnerability in the first place.
I cannot wait for this release, Alex. Thank you for alchemizing complex emotions into simple words that we can cling to on our journey to build healthy relationships.
I can't wait to read your book!! Navigating relationships can be so hard. I relate to so many things you've said in this post. Most of my goals for this year revolve around me as an individual, but this reminded me how important the relationships in my life are.
The way I’m trying to get out of my car and just had the ugliest cry reading the part about staying and BEING PROUD!
Tomorrow is moving day. I’m closing that (insert an embarrassing amount of years) year long chapter for good. We produced two wonderful humans and for that lll be grateful. Finally choosing me.
The way this all spoke to me, thank you for opening this space in your heart and sharing it with us. So much wisdom just from this post alone, excited to read it. Congratulations, Alex! 🖤
Oh Alex…this is going to free so many people. Thank you for your commitment to self work and encouraging others to do the same. So ready to read, discuss and recommend to my clients.
Can't wait to read this - it speaks to me in so many ways. The part about relationships being seasons - even if those seasons are 20 years, OOF. I found this quote in December that I took with me into 2026: "You can't heal in the same environment you got sick." I can't wait to read more and continue my healing journey.
That quote! 🎯
So much knowledge and wisdom in your message. I am 68. My husband of 45 years just passed in November. You just described my marriage. I should have left 25 years ago but stayed. The last 20 years I was miserable, resentful, bitter and unfulfilled. But, I stayed. I kept my marriage but lost myself. I have been serving others for so long that I now don’t know how to serve myself. I am now trying to find some joy in me. I pushed myself and feelings to the side so much that I don’t know what I feel. Thank you young one. Live your life to the fullest.
Alex, the timing of this is wild. Thank you for your hard work and vulnerability getting this wisdom out into the world - we need this so much ❤️
Going to order right now!! 💪🏾 let’s go!
Thank you for this. It resonates in so many ways. Pre-ordered.
"My unspoken expectations. My avoidance of difficult conversations. My tendency to over-give and then quietly be pissed about it. My longing to stay even after I’ve been shown it’s time to wrap it up." I have become resentful & reserved. Self betrayal.
That excerpt about “not owing”!!!
Honestly that nugget is going heal a lot of folks!
Let me make my way to Mahogany!
I feel this is going to help so many people. I was talking to a friend this morning about why I feel uneasy with a particular friend. Not that I hate them or anything. I just feel a linger of unease and reading this hours later just feels like fate.
Looking forward to the book launch❤️✨
Some of the hardest moments in a former toxic friendship that started in the church were the evasive gaslighting and avoidance of accountability when conflicts arose. It was difficult to be vulnerable and speak truth when it was met with filler Bible verses that perpetuated shame—all while the toxic friend engaged in dishonest reprimand. It's been over eight years since that relationship ended, and my nervous system is still healing. Being honest and vulnerable remains hard because my vulnerability was used against me—to silence what I observed as unfair behavior—while the very people I was vulnerable with refused to take accountability for the issues that prompted my vulnerability in the first place.
I cannot wait for this release, Alex. Thank you for alchemizing complex emotions into simple words that we can cling to on our journey to build healthy relationships.
“Peace is not something you find, it’s something you protect”. Sheesh! That hit me today. Love this & can’t wait for your new book. 🩵
So excited for my copy! Even more excited to see you and share space.💙 Thank you for your honesty, care and love through words.🤎
Great📚
I can't wait to read your book!! Navigating relationships can be so hard. I relate to so many things you've said in this post. Most of my goals for this year revolve around me as an individual, but this reminded me how important the relationships in my life are.