Beautiful. Thank you, I felt so identified with all you said, and I’m still in the process of opening up to love, as I tend to push or sabotage every relationship I could have. Thank you for helping me feel understood, and for encouraging me to trust in me and in what could come out of it❤️
“Love is persistent. It shows me repeatedly that it refuses to be ignored or denied.” Powerful statement that resonated with me. As my lover and I navigate through his feelings of not feeling worthy of love, my love shows up boldly and undeniably compassionate. Thank you for sharing. I read this out loud!
Thank you for this timely post ! I think I’m still struggling with loving me …I don’t feel like loving someone else is good for right now .. I want to love or learn to love , but it’s hard. I still have issue of trusting people in think is the biggest problem
In a marriage of 30 years, I look at love totally different than I did when I got married. We are both different people on the other side of a tumultuous life.
Right now love is my husband’s willingness to help take care of my mother. Love is commitment, patience, and forgiveness.
Love resides in my heart. Love is helping me get to know and love my new self. Self-love is my new romance.
Enjoy your house of love. It really is beautiful. Those girls! ❤️🤗
Born into a dysfunctional (alcoholic/narcissistic family of origin), and having looped into a spiral of abusive relationships…over eighteen months out, I’m still trying to recover from the breakdown of my 20yr plus marriage. Married to a man I totally ‘surrendered’ too…only to realise that it was all an illusion…
I have yearned for ‘unconditional’ love all my life…and lost all faith in both love, marriage, and to a great extent, people…
I do the work (on myself) everyday, but as meaningful as these words are, I’m not yet in a place where I have faith in the sentiment…
You both look soo happy, and I am happy for you, and grateful for your musings…thank you for sharing your gift with us.
Growing in love has taught me that I've viewed a relationship that changes or when contact becomes different it means it's wrong. The hardest part of my journey is really understanding that just because a relationship ends or changes doesn't mean the love was never there
Thank you for these words, Alex. The hardest part for me in this journey is finding- often in the nooks and crannies- where my fears still reaide. Where the self-judgement is hidden behind memories of my father and fears from childhood. Where I find my capacity to love is held back by guilt and shame I thought I'd laid to rest. Growing in love is beautiful, and the things it reveals can feel like a sword to the chest. It's all worth it.
“even if it felt foreign to me all my life..” these lines resonate with me , and this is so beautifully written and read. i have felt this reminder too in my partnership as well, i finally found that love is soft , love is True, love is an action we choose every moment. 🩷
Thanks for sharing but I have a question. I have a crazy background. I was a street kid abandoned by his parents and now I'm an adult but I have trust issues ⚠️ and I don't feel like emotionally available or give anyone a chance to love me. What should I do??
Alex - I loved this line 'What feels grounding these days is the beauty of honesty and patience ' D
Thank you, Dave!
Beautiful. Thank you, I felt so identified with all you said, and I’m still in the process of opening up to love, as I tend to push or sabotage every relationship I could have. Thank you for helping me feel understood, and for encouraging me to trust in me and in what could come out of it❤️
Big hug to you, Juliana! Proud of you.
Oh the healing that comes with feeling understood and coming back to trusting yourself. It’s little by little kind of work but worth it. 🤎
“Love is persistent. It shows me repeatedly that it refuses to be ignored or denied.” Powerful statement that resonated with me. As my lover and I navigate through his feelings of not feeling worthy of love, my love shows up boldly and undeniably compassionate. Thank you for sharing. I read this out loud!
Thank you for reading, Dana!
Thank you for this timely post ! I think I’m still struggling with loving me …I don’t feel like loving someone else is good for right now .. I want to love or learn to love , but it’s hard. I still have issue of trusting people in think is the biggest problem
Thank you for reading it, Shante! Sending you loving clarity as you embark on your journey.
In a marriage of 30 years, I look at love totally different than I did when I got married. We are both different people on the other side of a tumultuous life.
Right now love is my husband’s willingness to help take care of my mother. Love is commitment, patience, and forgiveness.
Love resides in my heart. Love is helping me get to know and love my new self. Self-love is my new romance.
Enjoy your house of love. It really is beautiful. Those girls! ❤️🤗
“Love can be healthy.
Love can be safe.
Love can be true”.
Born into a dysfunctional (alcoholic/narcissistic family of origin), and having looped into a spiral of abusive relationships…over eighteen months out, I’m still trying to recover from the breakdown of my 20yr plus marriage. Married to a man I totally ‘surrendered’ too…only to realise that it was all an illusion…
I have yearned for ‘unconditional’ love all my life…and lost all faith in both love, marriage, and to a great extent, people…
I do the work (on myself) everyday, but as meaningful as these words are, I’m not yet in a place where I have faith in the sentiment…
You both look soo happy, and I am happy for you, and grateful for your musings…thank you for sharing your gift with us.
You are a real taonga, Arohanui, JC 🙏
Growing in love has taught me that I've viewed a relationship that changes or when contact becomes different it means it's wrong. The hardest part of my journey is really understanding that just because a relationship ends or changes doesn't mean the love was never there
I have learned:
Love can increase - 24 years of marriage and it’s so so good
Love is pure - my kids teach me this
New love is possible - I invested in new friendships last year and it has been beautiful to make new amazing, funny, generous friends in my 40s
Thank you for these words, Alex. The hardest part for me in this journey is finding- often in the nooks and crannies- where my fears still reaide. Where the self-judgement is hidden behind memories of my father and fears from childhood. Where I find my capacity to love is held back by guilt and shame I thought I'd laid to rest. Growing in love is beautiful, and the things it reveals can feel like a sword to the chest. It's all worth it.
“even if it felt foreign to me all my life..” these lines resonate with me , and this is so beautifully written and read. i have felt this reminder too in my partnership as well, i finally found that love is soft , love is True, love is an action we choose every moment. 🩷
This is so beautiful! I can totally resonate
Thanks for sharing but I have a question. I have a crazy background. I was a street kid abandoned by his parents and now I'm an adult but I have trust issues ⚠️ and I don't feel like emotionally available or give anyone a chance to love me. What should I do??
This lovely story got hundreds of comments and dozens of restack, for a good reason, it resonates and is happy and hopey.