Beautiful. Thank you, I felt so identified with all you said, and I’m still in the process of opening up to love, as I tend to push or sabotage every relationship I could have. Thank you for helping me feel understood, and for encouraging me to trust in me and in what could come out of it❤️
“Love is persistent. It shows me repeatedly that it refuses to be ignored or denied.” Powerful statement that resonated with me. As my lover and I navigate through his feelings of not feeling worthy of love, my love shows up boldly and undeniably compassionate. Thank you for sharing. I read this out loud!
Thank you for this timely post ! I think I’m still struggling with loving me …I don’t feel like loving someone else is good for right now .. I want to love or learn to love , but it’s hard. I still have issue of trusting people in think is the biggest problem
In a marriage of 30 years, I look at love totally different than I did when I got married. We are both different people on the other side of a tumultuous life.
Right now love is my husband’s willingness to help take care of my mother. Love is commitment, patience, and forgiveness.
Love resides in my heart. Love is helping me get to know and love my new self. Self-love is my new romance.
Enjoy your house of love. It really is beautiful. Those girls! ❤️🤗
Born into a dysfunctional (alcoholic/narcissistic family of origin), and having looped into a spiral of abusive relationships…over eighteen months out, I’m still trying to recover from the breakdown of my 20yr plus marriage. Married to a man I totally ‘surrendered’ too…only to realise that it was all an illusion…
I have yearned for ‘unconditional’ love all my life…and lost all faith in both love, marriage, and to a great extent, people…
I do the work (on myself) everyday, but as meaningful as these words are, I’m not yet in a place where I have faith in the sentiment…
You both look soo happy, and I am happy for you, and grateful for your musings…thank you for sharing your gift with us.
Growing in love has taught me that I've viewed a relationship that changes or when contact becomes different it means it's wrong. The hardest part of my journey is really understanding that just because a relationship ends or changes doesn't mean the love was never there
Thank you for these words, Alex. The hardest part for me in this journey is finding- often in the nooks and crannies- where my fears still reaide. Where the self-judgement is hidden behind memories of my father and fears from childhood. Where I find my capacity to love is held back by guilt and shame I thought I'd laid to rest. Growing in love is beautiful, and the things it reveals can feel like a sword to the chest. It's all worth it.
I deeply love your article. I feel for you and with you. I also struggled and till that day struggle to let love in, to not self-sabotage it, but to let myself be loved. I have pushed away some of the people I love the most because I was afraid and it deeply troubles me. But I learn, with each step I take that I can open up more, be more honest about how I feel and share all that there is in my inner being. The last love I pushed away and that I felt so connected to let me go into a deep transformation - it hurt so damn hard because that person is so important to me that healing and opening up and embracing openness is the only way forward for me. It is the only thing I can do. Accepting, loving, learning, growing. And bringing love more and more into my life.
Thanks for sharing but I have a question. I have a crazy background. I was a street kid abandoned by his parents and now I'm an adult but I have trust issues ⚠️ and I don't feel like emotionally available or give anyone a chance to love me. What should I do??
Alex - I loved this line 'What feels grounding these days is the beauty of honesty and patience ' D
Beautiful. Thank you, I felt so identified with all you said, and I’m still in the process of opening up to love, as I tend to push or sabotage every relationship I could have. Thank you for helping me feel understood, and for encouraging me to trust in me and in what could come out of it❤️
“Love is persistent. It shows me repeatedly that it refuses to be ignored or denied.” Powerful statement that resonated with me. As my lover and I navigate through his feelings of not feeling worthy of love, my love shows up boldly and undeniably compassionate. Thank you for sharing. I read this out loud!
Thank you for this timely post ! I think I’m still struggling with loving me …I don’t feel like loving someone else is good for right now .. I want to love or learn to love , but it’s hard. I still have issue of trusting people in think is the biggest problem
In a marriage of 30 years, I look at love totally different than I did when I got married. We are both different people on the other side of a tumultuous life.
Right now love is my husband’s willingness to help take care of my mother. Love is commitment, patience, and forgiveness.
Love resides in my heart. Love is helping me get to know and love my new self. Self-love is my new romance.
Enjoy your house of love. It really is beautiful. Those girls! ❤️🤗
“Love can be healthy.
Love can be safe.
Love can be true”.
Born into a dysfunctional (alcoholic/narcissistic family of origin), and having looped into a spiral of abusive relationships…over eighteen months out, I’m still trying to recover from the breakdown of my 20yr plus marriage. Married to a man I totally ‘surrendered’ too…only to realise that it was all an illusion…
I have yearned for ‘unconditional’ love all my life…and lost all faith in both love, marriage, and to a great extent, people…
I do the work (on myself) everyday, but as meaningful as these words are, I’m not yet in a place where I have faith in the sentiment…
You both look soo happy, and I am happy for you, and grateful for your musings…thank you for sharing your gift with us.
You are a real taonga, Arohanui, JC 🙏
I have learned:
Love can increase - 24 years of marriage and it’s so so good
Love is pure - my kids teach me this
New love is possible - I invested in new friendships last year and it has been beautiful to make new amazing, funny, generous friends in my 40s
Growing in love has taught me that I've viewed a relationship that changes or when contact becomes different it means it's wrong. The hardest part of my journey is really understanding that just because a relationship ends or changes doesn't mean the love was never there
Thank you for these words, Alex. The hardest part for me in this journey is finding- often in the nooks and crannies- where my fears still reaide. Where the self-judgement is hidden behind memories of my father and fears from childhood. Where I find my capacity to love is held back by guilt and shame I thought I'd laid to rest. Growing in love is beautiful, and the things it reveals can feel like a sword to the chest. It's all worth it.
I deeply love your article. I feel for you and with you. I also struggled and till that day struggle to let love in, to not self-sabotage it, but to let myself be loved. I have pushed away some of the people I love the most because I was afraid and it deeply troubles me. But I learn, with each step I take that I can open up more, be more honest about how I feel and share all that there is in my inner being. The last love I pushed away and that I felt so connected to let me go into a deep transformation - it hurt so damn hard because that person is so important to me that healing and opening up and embracing openness is the only way forward for me. It is the only thing I can do. Accepting, loving, learning, growing. And bringing love more and more into my life.
Thanks for sharing but I have a question. I have a crazy background. I was a street kid abandoned by his parents and now I'm an adult but I have trust issues ⚠️ and I don't feel like emotionally available or give anyone a chance to love me. What should I do??
This lovely story got hundreds of comments and dozens of restack, for a good reason, it resonates and is happy and hopey.
Love can be safe. Love can be healthy. Love can be true. I had goosebumps hearing you say these. Thank you Alex.